Honoring My Grandmother’s Legacy: Celebrating Her Birthday with a New Beginning

Today would have been my maternal grandmother’s 107th birthday! We were incredibly close, and I have countless memories of reading books with her, listening to her childhood stories, and being amazed at her gorgeous handwriting – all experiences that helped cultivate my love of reading and writing.

She also encouraged my imagination! She was always willing to have a tea party with me or be a passenger on the “plane” as I pretended to be a pilot. Once, when I wanted to open a restaurant in her kitchen, I asked for help creating the menu. 

“How do you spell it?” I asked. 

“M-E-N…” she started. 

“M-E-N…” I repeated. 

“U!” she said. 

I proudly showed her my MenYou.

She died in 2011, and I wrote about it on my blog at the time:

After rapidly declining for the past month, my grandmother passed away yesterday morning while her husband slept in the next room. Just two hours later, my grandfather died in his sleep. He never woke up; he was never told that his wife was gone, but I think he knew.

They would have been married sixty-eight years this June. Sixty-eight years. I can’t even imagine living 68 years, much less living with someone else for that long.

A few years ago, I interviewed them for a sociology paper on marriage and family; they said some mornings they wake up and just have to embrace before sharing breakfast. Last Monday, a week before they died, my grandfather steered his wheelchair in to my grandmother’s room and they held hands across the hospital bed rails, as they had been doing nightly for some time.

I can’t imagine that degree of devotion and dedication. Long marriages run in my family, with my paternal grandparents lasting 58 years before death did they part, my maternal grandparents almost 68, and my parents just celebrated 36. It’s inspiring (…and a little intimidating).

I’m incredibly thankful that both grandparents had such long, amazing lives before leaving together, and that I got to spend 25 years with them.

I think of her often, especially on her birthday. So, I’m excited to announce: today I’m launching my writing services: Lightning Flash Writing!

It may seem random to do that on my grandmother’s birthday, but she always encouraged me in everything I did, and I like to think she’d be proud of me for following my creative pursuits like she did.

How It Is to Be a Girl: A Review at MicroLit Almanac

I was so pleased when an editor at MicroLit Almanac reached out to me about writing a review of Sarah Freligh’s A Brief Natural History of Women. I love Freligh’s writing, have taken several of her workshops (and had several pieces published that started in those workshops!), and previously read the book several times for a Shorter is Better book club meeting.

Check out my review here!

Dead Girl Erased

I can’t believe that I forgot to log this submission on my spreadsheet, and therefore forgot to mention it in my 2023 Writing in Review post!

Last March, Gnashing Teeth Publishing posted on Twitter that they were tearing pages out of a book (Dead Girl Running by Christina Dodd) and sending them to anyone who requested one. Once you got a page, you’d create an erasure or blackout poem and send it back to be published in an anthology.

I love strange constraints and any type of project, so I requested a page. When it came in the mail, I think I was frozen for a week or two. I had no clue where to start. What if I blacked out a word I wanted back later??

I decided to take a photo of the pages and use the mark up feature on my phone to draft some poems. I’m really glad I took that approach, though I don’t remember changing a lot of the words. In fact, I kept taking away more. But it was nice to have the original page to look back on when I wanted. And once I completed my poem, I could carefully black out the right sections on the book page.

With that done, I mailed the page off and waited. And forgot about it, honestly! Then preorders were announced, so I preordered and forgot about it again! Which means I was pleasantly surprised by a book in my mailbox one day.

It was so cool to not only see my poem in this book, but to see how other people approached the erasure aspect of the project. There are some works of art in here! It’s also really interesting to see how many poems kind of fit together. Probably because the book is one cohesive work so it’s understandable there’d be some overlap in the poems, but it’s still fascinating!

You can grab a copy here.

2023 Writing in Review

This year felt like a slow one to me, but when I look at my submissions spreadsheet and publication track record, it was pretty great! I did take it a bit slower in terms of workshops. I love the prompts and feedback in workshops, but this year was a rollercoaster in terms of my paid writing work, so not having the pressure (or expense, yikes!) of many workshops was a necessary break. (That said, I took seven workshops total, though many were in the spring when my work life was still running smoothly!)

I like the goal of submitting to a certain number of places a month because I like marking accomplishments off my list. However, I don’t like the pressure of submitting just because. So for 2024, I’m going to take a small step back. I’m going to focus more on the ideas I have for collections and novellas-in-flash and strive to finish those instead of writing one-offs for submission. I think having a few bigger projects on my plate will be a nice change of pace from these past three years.

Anyway, my 2023 stats meet the goals I set for myself at the end of last year. I submitted 62 times, compared to 63 written in 2022 (I also submitted photography that year) and 44 in 2021. I had 16 acceptances, compared to 13 written acceptances in 2022 and 5 in 2021. Six stories are still out/under consideration.

I also wrote blurbs for two amazing collections: Winter Dance Party by Brett Biebel and Awakenings edited by Diane Gottlieb.

Two of my 2023 acceptances are for anthologies coming in the future from Reflex Press and Stanchion, but the rest are online and linked below:

Ladyfingers published by Visual Verse 9/2023

The Hand, The Remorse of Conscience in The Ekphrastic Review’s Lucky 8 Marathon 8/2023

Precarious Pile published by Visual Verse 8/2023

Nectar published by SoFloPoJo 8/2023

Waiting in the Rain published by Visual Verse 7/2023

Blue Monkey published by Ellipsis Zine 6/2023

Crosstown Traffic published by The Write-In 6/2023

Moving Day published by The Write-In 6/2023

Trick or Treat published by The Write-In 6/2023

She’s Where the Sky Meets the Water published by The Write-In 6/2023

Dreamless Reality published by The Write-In 6/2023

Close Your Eyes published by Visual Verse 5/2023

Midway shortlisted for the Brilliant Flash Fiction Contest 5/2023

Mother of Pearl published by Visual Verse 4/2023

501 published by Spartan 4/2023

Death of an Influencer published by Visual Verse 3/2023

Bank Balance published by Friday Flash Fiction 3/2023

“Shining Light” photograph in Rock and a Hard Place Issue 9 2/2023

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2022 Writing in Review

2021 Writing in Review

Interview with Intrepidus Ink

I’m an editor with Intrepidus Ink, a fantastic magazine that publishes stories featuring alarmingly individual and heroically-minded characters. Submissions include flash fiction (300 – 1,000 words) and short stories (1,500 – 2,500 words), so I bet you have a piece to send our way! Read our published stories to ensure you hit the mark in terms of a story that will keep the reader on the edge of their seat, rooting for your character to win it all.

Oh, did I mention it’s a PAYING magazine? And we promote your work like crazy, including interviews on publication day and nominations for all the literary awards.

If you want to submit, check out our published stories and interviews. Including mine with EIC Rhonda Schlumpberger.

Happy National Flash Fiction Day!

Yes, I’m posting this right before the day officially ends in the UK, but I’ve been writing since The Write-In started posting prompts yesterday evening (my time)! I always love writing from a prompt, as evidenced by so many of my recent publications having origin stories in workshops.

Anyway, this year NFFD is doing a badge system, and I love collecting little trinkets that show where I’ve been and what I’ve done, so here are the pieces I’ve written and submitted so far.

Since the deadline to submit is tomorrow at 5:59p my time, I’m going to keep writing because this concept of time in the prompts is perfect for how I’m trying to push myself to go speculative, so I’m going to continue writing. Anyone else participating today?

“Midway” Shortlisted for Brilliant Flash Fiction Contest

I’m so excited to announce that my micro, “Midway,” was shortlisted for the Brilliant Flash Fiction contest and is published online!

Read it here, along with the other fantastic shortlisted stories and, of course, the contest winners!

This is the image that inspired the piece, written in a Sarah Freligh workshop. The prompt was to use an image to find “the poetry of prose,” and something about this photograph my paternal grandfather took at the 1939 Worlds Fair in New York was like a lightning strike. I wrote about it soon after the workshop (Bolt of Inspiration), and this honor of being shortlisted for a contest gives me fresh inspiration to work on the project mentioned in that blog post.

Creative Outlet: Artist Trading Cards

I haven’t been writing lately. I have three big projects on my plate but I can’t seem to dedicate any time to them. A friend and I talked about other creative outlets as ways to unwind, landing on tangles, which made me remember a folder I doodled on during a high school mythology class.

I didn’t finish the back because it was a one-semester elective.

As I went hunting for this folder, I found a box that I had also doodled on – though not as long ago as high school. No, these were college doodles, best remembered as the peak of my LiveJournal period (2004 to 2007 for normal people).

Through an LJ art community, I discovered Artist Trading Cards (ATCs) and started making my own. You could post them on the LJ community and trade with others. I still have a ton of completed cards, plus supplies to make more.

I love the concept of tiny artwork, making something in a short time, feeling productive and complete. I hope to photograph them all to share on my (woefully long-forgotten) art Instagram and find other artists to start trading again.

I love using the constraints of the fixed size (2.5″ x 3.5″) to show a beautiful image that gives the viewer enough space to add the details in their mind… Wait, that sounds a lot like another creative outlet I enjoy, doesn’t it?

Anyway, this is probably my favorite card I made. A two-parter called Rock & Roll All Nite. Note the custom title/credit image I made to back my cards… Ah, youth.

Six Months of Won’t Be By Your Side

My chapbook, Won’t Be By Your Side, has been out in the world for six months today!

If you haven’t grabbed a copy, you can get one right now from Amazon.

If you’ve read the book, please review it on Amazon and Goodreads!

If you have a copy and want an autographed bookplate, DM me on Twitter or Instagram and I’ll send you one for free!

Bolt of Inspiration

I started 2023 with very few writing goals because too many start to feel like obligations, and that’s the last excuse I need to skip writing time. My main goals were massive projects to work on all year:

  • Complete, edit, and possibly submit a novella-in-flash
  • Revise and query a YA book that’s been tucked away for over a decade

I also knew I wanted to take more workshops, and kicked off the year with two: one focusing on micros, one for sci-fi and speculative fiction.

I didn’t realize that, during those workshops, I’d get an idea for another massive project. The prompt was to use a photograph as your inspiration. I love ekphrastic work, so this was right up my alley. I even knew what photos to sort through to find the perfect concept.

When my paternal grandfather died, I spent a lot of time in his wood-paneled study. He had a box of prints curled with age. I loved sorting through them and trying to cobble together the true story of who took them, when, and where. No one knew. But I kept them and occasionally looked through them to get more clues.

I looked through the photos last week for this prompt and showed them to my dad. We searched each image for clues and then researched possibilities before realizing the pictures were from the 1939 World’s Fair in New York. Now we’re just trying to unravel the mystery of who in the family took them, with two major contenders: my grandfather and great-grandfather. Of course, they could have gotten copies of the prints from a friend or neighbor, and we’ll never know.

But the truth behind the photos isn’t my main concern. There are several sets that tell stories when you put the images in one order, then a different story when you shuffle them. And I can’t stop shuffling them, which led to my newest massive project: a chapbook of ekphrastic stories with the photos at the top of each page. I’ve already scanned the images and started writing, so I guess my previous resolutions will take a backseat for a bit…